Trust not Man, but God.

AleskaSpeaks
Jul 6, 2023
6 min read

Updated: Nov 9, 2023

Whew…. Do I have so many thoughts right at this moment over this topic that I truly can’t wait to invite you into. This is something a close friend and I have been passionate about for quite a few years. There are always events in life that can be somewhat of a push to get you moving in a direction that God has called you to, however, there is also the kicker of “what to do” right? What’s the next move? I’d like to invite you to a perspective that I have really recently been diving into about how waiting can have abundantly sweet moments when we proactively wait with Jesus. So let’s talk about it.

Realism in waiting:

I know that there are so many cliché responses to someone in a waiting season and to be quite honest (and I can say this from the rooftops) but we’re all tired of hearing it! It sucks, not a single one of us typically likes to wait for anything. We live in an “I want what I want when I want it” culture and that’s actually developed psychologically. We have a “worry” mindset waiting for answers that we don’t currently have but are seeking. We have an “anxious” mindset when we don’t know how someone will respond. As you can see, there are many different forms and aspects, and emotions that come along with the act of waiting. Most of these emotions are rooted in the insecurity of the unknown. As knowing creatures it’s a natural instinct to search for the answer and that’s nothing to be ashamed of, sometimes with research, we can find those answers. Unfortunately, not every question can be found by research and what do we do then? Other than spiraling into the mindset of a worst-case scenario I’d like to give some insight into what I’ve found to be helpful when I’ve been waiting. We’re all about self-growth here so I hope that I can be a vessel and this helps you grow and glow baby!

All Out/All In: Healthy Spiritual Habits & Dependence on God

Step One: is one of the most important steps and I really urge you to try and stick with this. Limit social media. Wow. Shocker. I know you guys were all waiting for me to say that since I say it all the time. There is never a bad time for a social reset but I think when you’re entering into a time period when you’re waiting on something specific, it's very beneficial to the process. Depending on the length of time and your capability of staying focused you can choose how much less time you spend on social media, however, that’s up to you and your needs. For me, it’s completely cut off until my focus is where it needs to be and then I reevaluate and move forward from there.
Step Two: Have a morning routine with Jesus. This is where things start becoming abundantly sweet and I’d like to invite you into a mindset really quick.
- God can handle your:
  - mess, thoughts, frustrations, wants/needs, desires, stressors, grief, joy, celebrations, and everything in between.

Come to him with complete surrender and open-mindedness each morning and just sit in sweet serenity with him because it will refill your soul. I meet with Jesus at my dining table every morning, midday, and evening before bed and it has been a place of comfort for me.

Step Three: Vocalize it. Hear me out, not with a bunch of other people. On paper.
- Holding emotions and feelings and all the things inside, can be completely detrimental to your mental health and we're all striving to find that joy right? Write it all down, babe. Let all the thoughts flow through you. Write down your prayers in a journal like no one will ever see it. Just get it out of your chest. In full transparency I can journal around 6 times a day with my thoughts so there's no limit. When I say bring all of your thoughts I mean it, bring it alllllll to Jesus! This step comes with acknowledging it. Acknowledge that you’re yearning for something, sit in that. Be uncomfortable for a second. It’ll make the rest that much more rewarding.
Step Four: Count it as a blessing/building block for your faith.
- James 1:2 says “ Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, ^3 for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness.” Note he didn’t say BE joyful (so you can admit when something sucks) but he says COUNT it all joy. Count these moments as joy for it will grow the fruit you will bear. It WILL build steadfastness. Some bricks you lay for your house will be great moments, some will be memories, some will be trials, some will be pain and loss and some will be just plain tired. One day you’ll see the house you’ve built through God and what sweetness to know you remained honorable and faithful to Him and He to you. One day you’ll hear “Well done my good and faithful servant.” and MAN. Worth all the trials and all waiting.
Step Five: Read your bible and put your trust in God not in the words of others.
- I know I know, someone promised you the promotion. Someone promised you this, and someone promised you that. People are deceitful. Listen. When you put your utmost trust in God and not man, you then allow the RESULTS to be from God and not from man. This is putting your future into his will, his command, and not the expectations that someone else gave you. How refreshing it is to give the RESULTS to God before we even get them? I think that waiting creates moments for us to learn to be completely dependent on Him. Jeremiah 17: 5-8; ^1 Cursed is the man who puts trust in man and makes flesh his strength, whose heart turns away from the Lord. ^6 He is like a shrub in the desert, and shall not see any good come. He shall dwell in the parched places of the wilderness, in an uninhabited salt land. ^7 “Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose trust is the Lord. ^8 He is like a tree planted by water, that sends out its roots by the stream, and does not fear when heat comes, for its leaves remain green and it is not anxious in the year of drought, for it does not cease to bear fruit.” Go back and reread that. There's quite the contrast between trusting in man and trusting in God. Do you want to be a shriveled-up bush or a tree-bearing fruit? I’m also not ignorant to the fact that we like to hold people at their word and trust that what they say is true so in light of me telling you to trust in God and his plan over what people say let’s practice praying this. “God, please show me who they are. Let their actions speak, show me if their word is honorable and if they’re an honorable person.” When you ask God to show you character, be ready for that answer because, in my experience, all things come to light. I hope that you’re surrounding yourself with honorable people. I’m also going to insert a few other verses for trusting God below:
  - Psalm 13:5
  - Psalm 37:5
  - Psalm 56:11
  - Psalm 62:8
  - Psalm 118:9
  - Psalm 125:1
  - Proverbs 3:5
  - Isaiah 12:2
Step Six: Be ready for what's coming.
- Psalm 37:5-6 “ Commit your way to the Lord. Trust in him and he will act. ^6 He will bring forth your righteousness as the light and your justice as the noonday.” Can I get a hollerin’ AMEN. Let's hear it! Won’t he do it!! Commit your way to the LORD. He. Will. Act. I tell you what, if you’re asking for something, for revelation, for movement, for that job, for that spouse, for that kid, for that motivation you need to be ready for what God is bringing to you. If you’re spiritually prepared the rest of the preparation will follow suit. Remember when God has you, nothing else does.
Step Seven: Lastly, enjoy what moments these habits will bring you.
- I know this sounds a little weird, but I have been so blessed with kindness and grace and sweet sweet moments where it’s just me and the Lord having breakfast and dinner together. Moments where I’m quite literally sitting in silence and opening my emotions to his hand truly surrendering my expectations of what life needs to be. Not every waking moment feels that way but I am sure to soak in all the alone time I’m getting with God before I move into a different season when he calls me to it. I’m having fun with it! You can too!